The first working Monday of each New Year is often dubbed ‘Divorce Day,’ a term that reflects the
expected surge in divorce inquiries, post-Christmas. While Thackray Williams’ Family team experienced higher call volumes on January 6th , compared to any other day in January; January itself, saw more Family inquiries, than any other month, across 2024.
Divorce is rarely a sudden decision, triggered by a single event. Individuals contemplate separation
carefully, choosing to delay discussions, until after the festive season, and children have returned to
school. So, whether you’re considering a separation or divorce, or you’ve taken that initial step, here’s our top 10 things to think about:
- Hopeful of reconciliation? Perhaps consider marriage counselling. Relate could help.
- If reconciliation isn’t feasible, start planning for your separation. Consider your goals for yourself, your partner, and your children. What do you see for the future?
- Gather financial information including property valuations, mortgage statements, savings, investments, credits cards, loans and income. Your solicitor can obtain your partners financial information.
- Don’t overlook Pensions, obtain a valuation from your pension provider. This valuation, often called a ‘transfer value’ or ‘cash equivalent value’ (CEV), is crucial to secure a fair settlement.
- List out your monthly expenses including mortgage/rent, utility bills, loans and school/nursery/childcare costs.
- Research your lawyers, whilst some law firms offer free initial consultations, these are typically
short. For a comprehensive discussion, consider a ‘fixed price’ consultation. This allows a thorough review of your situation, providing you with the necessary time and guidance to make informed decisions. - It’s crucial to feel comfortable with your chosen solicitor. If you don’t connect with the first solicitor you speak to, don’t hesitate to seek a second. Finding a solicitor you trust, and understand, is essential, for a positive experience.
- Discuss your budget. Family lawyers will help in any way they can, offering flexible arrangements when possible. Lawyers typically charge hourly rates, based on their experience.
Discuss fees and choose a solicitor, who best suits your needs and budget. - Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) offers a way to resolve family issues outside of Court. By
choosing ADR, you may save time and money while encouraging a more amicable resolution.
This is particularly important when children are involved. ADR can be effectively used to
address divorce, financial settlements, and child-related arrangements. ADR is not appropriate
in all cases. It’s also possible to contact a Mediator directly (Family mediation | Resolution and
Home – Family Mediation Council) - When conducting online research, rely on reputable sources. Remember that each family, and
divorce situation, is unique. For further information, explore these recommended websites
a. Divorce and separation | Advicenow
b. Supporting your child through divorce and separation | Cafcass
c. Home – Women’s Aid
If you have questions relating to this article, or would like to explore your current situation with us,
please email our family partners:
Stuart Ruff stuart.ruff@thackraywilliams.com or Caroline Burstein caroline.burstein@thackraywilliams.com
Author: Helen Loder
Co-Director of Sevenoaks Mums